The Zone, Vol 16: Relationships

by The ParaDocs

July 15, 2020

The Zone Weekly with paraDocs

As Covid cases rise in in many states across the US, questions about our future linger. Will schools open in the Fall? Are my loved ones safe? Will we ever go back to any semblance of normal? While the future is a question mark, one thing is certain – we are navigating unchartered waters. This calls for a new vision of how we show up in the world.

In Volume 16 of this guest series, Psychotherapist, Dr. Francis L. Battisti and Nutritionist, Dr. Helen Battisti remind us that it’s our interconnectedness that helps us find balance and grace, even in the most unstable of times.
For over 10 years, they have worked closely with us on aging concerns and have presented many webinars and in-person workshops. Their newsletter, The Zone, is a weekly mental health and nutrition tip sheet during times of change.

From the outside looking in, some events can appear chaotic. However, from the inside looking out, there is often a rhythm and system to these same events. In other words, the theory of chaos is the apparent randomness of a chaotic complex system while there are underlying patterns and interconnectedness that keep the system moving. Much like the juggler, who appears to keep multiple balls in the air at the same time, it may all seem chaotic and random. For the juggler, there is a perfect balance within the rhythm of the system. This perfect balance can easily be thrown off when the juggler loses the focus of his/her task.
With the many challenges that we, as a world and as individuals are juggling, quality relationships are essential to maintaining our balance and focus. Some of these relationships can include family members, friends, associates, spiritual beliefs, one’s self, mankind and the environment. The quality of these relationships can help us in maintain the delicate balance of chaos without becoming chaotic.

Key Takeaways

  • The multitude of challenges that the world is facing can seem overwhelming.
  • Quality relationship building can assist us in maintaining or creating our balance.
  • To better understand today’s challenges, it’s important to seek patterns, interconnectedness and repetitions.

Best Practices

  • Take the time, energy and focus necessary for maintaining and developing quality relationships.
  • Enhance one’s knowledge of history by reading, watching and listening to documentaries and, meeting with others who have lived the history.
  • In order to have the stamina to enhance our relationship building, it is important to practice self-care, physically, spiritually and emotionally.

Things to Limit

  • Allowing pettiness to become your focus.
  • Victim mentality and it’s energy/depletion.
  • Hateful thinking and speaking.

In summary, with numerous issues confronting us in today’s world, it’s important to keep above the fray of the turmoil so that you don’t get caught up in the craziness of the moment. In order to maintain and enhance one’s balance, developing honest and deep relationships is health enhancing.

Quote of the Week

“Comedy isn’t necessarily all dialogue. Think of *Buster Keaton: the poker face and all this chaos going on all around him. Sometimes it’s a question of timing, of the proper rhythm.” – Clint Eastwood
* Buster Keaton was an American actor, comedian, film director, producer, screenwriter, and stunt performer of the first half of the 20th Century

About the author 

The ParaDocs

The paraDocs are Dr. Francis L. Battisti, PhD, Psychotherapist, Distinguished Psychology Professor and former Executive V.P. and Chief Academic Officer and, Dr. Helen E. Battisti, PhD, Registered Dietitian and Nutritionist. The purpose of The Zone is to provide a weekly mental-health and nutrition tip-sheet during times of change.

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